Five Wisdom Gems || Funke Felix Adejumo

Funke Felix Adejumo: Five(5) wisdom gems

1. You cannot change your last chapter.

Because it is already written in ink but you can change the way your next chapter will be written.

You know why? because you are still holding the pen.
You cannot change your last chapter because your life is a book. You cannot change the last chapter but you can change the next chapter because you’re still holding the pen. As long as you have life, you’re still holding the pen.

Stop living in your past, past success, past failure, this person said, that one said, that person said, this one…
You know this days, people use their mouth and their fingers to make you feel bad about yourself. Refuse it.
Stop punishing an innocent person. Who is the innocent person? You!
The you that did what you did, is not the you that I’m addressing today. The you that made that mistake is not the same you that is on this life chat today.

Stop punishing an innocent person, you can’t change the past, it’s behind you but you still have control of the future.
Write well, write what you want, stop focusing on your mistakes. People will help you amplify it, if you give them the power, if you give them the opportunity.
You know sometimes, there are things you should not even read on social media. Once you notice that somebody is about to abuse you, just pass, don’t let it settle in your mind.

Many times people say good things and good things and good things and then somebody who does not even understand his own life, says one thing and that is the one thing you will just hold on to. What about the people that love you?

It’s a free world, stop dwelling on the negative, pick your pen, God has so much done it that your pen, the pen of your life is not in anybody’s hand, is in your hand. Write what you want, write what you expect, write with your mouth, write in your mind, write with your attitude.

2. Stop looking good in mediocrity.

Stop looking good in mediocrity. Step out and go learn. You can not continue to do the same thing, the same way and expect a different results.

Let me tell you this; relationships do expire. It is the truth, it may be bitter but it’s the truth. Stop looking good in mediocrity, you were created for excellence and no matter what you have accomplished today, as a woman, as a man, as a wife, as a mother, husband, friend, whatever, you can be better. That’s what I’m saying.

 I’m challenging you today to be inspired, I want you to know that you can be better. Yesterday is already mediocrity, so step up, you can not continue to relate to only the same set of people. There is a portal of knowledge you need, go seek it. You cannot see the frame when you are in the picture. There are people that know better than you do, invest into yourself and stop looking good in mediocrity. Refuse to be a local champion.

You need someone in your life that can take you to a place in yourself, that you’ve not been able to go by yourself.
God created you for mobility, he made sure that your eyes are forward looking, he made sure that your feet are forward looking, you were not created to remain on the same spot.

 3. Celebrate your growth.

Celebrate your growth. If you do not say “I am”, nobody will say “thou art”. The little improvement you have made, celebrate it. Don’t just sit down and be condemning yourself. Excuse me, you were not like this last year, you were not this good last year, today you a better wife, you’re a better woman, you’re a better husband, you’re a better mother, you’re not there yet but please the little wings, the baby steps, celebrate your growth.

4. Ask for help not because you are weak but because you need to remain strong.

Some of you, maybe ladies or even men are in abusive relationships.
How can you stay in a relationship where you have been dismantled physically, emotionally, psychologically? Because you want to remain married? Please, ask for help, I beg you.

Your pastor does not have all the answers, stop killing your pastors. Your pastor may not be a marriage counsellor, it does not reduce him. Now, let me say this, “I am not a pastor, I am a pastor’s wife”. I know my name, I know my calling and I stay there. My husband is a first class pastor, my husband can sit down and listen to you for 6 hours, you cry, he will give you tissue.
My husband can reach you anywhere, he can go to any length, he’s a nurtural, that’s not me.

Understand this, your pastor may not have all the answers. You have a challenge in your marriage, you’re dealing with adultery, maybe your pastor has never understood that for instance. If adultery takes place in your marriage or in your life, you will go through five stages. Your pastor may not know because he’s never gone through it before. Go and look for a marriage counsellor, go and look for a professional.

As a pastor, don’t pose as if you have all the answers. If you’re in an abusive relationship, don’t let pastors hear this one that I want to say now. If you’re in any abusive relationship, the man is beating you, one of your eye is removed, and all that and your pastor says, “stay there and continue to pray”, I pity your destiny.

 Pastor is at home, he’s keeping his wife and keeping his children and the pastor tells you to stay there and be praying or the Imam tells you to stay there and be praying or even your parents, “stay there and be praying”.
Those of you that are parents, hear me; When your children are going to their husband’s homes, don’t say, “you see this room, you can never come here again oh”… Stop it! What’s wrong with you?

That’s the reason why some women die in relationships. There is this thing about marriage in the African culture, if you are single as if it’s a sickness. That’s not the way God sees us.
Please, let’s stop putting this pressure on people and let them die. Ask for for help before you go into coma. It’s not because you are weak, it’s because you need to remain strong.

Please ask for help. Don’t just sit down there and be praying. You will open your eyes like this one day and you’ll be in heaven and the Angels will say, “ah… why are you here? We were not expecting you, we thought, you would not come until 65 years time. Why are you here?”

Don’t let any man kill you. I’ve said this over and over again, the covenant of life is superior to the covenant of marriage. So, if you were pastor’s daughter, will he tell you to just stay there and be praying?
Times have changed, marriage is not what completes you. God give you the privilege of being married, fantastic because we still have good men and we still have good women.

5. Stop fearing other people’s perception of you.

What would this person say, what would that person say… Stop being afraid of people’s perception of you, forget it.
My husband will say, “even if you cut your head, some people will never be pleased”.

Stop being afraid of other people’s perception of you. You are like an elephant, some people will see your trunks, some will see your eyes, some will see your body, some it doesn’t matter.
Opinion is the cheapest commodity on earth and everybody can afford it. Stop living your life based on people’s opinions. Come and ask me how many opinions people have about me, I don’t care. Let God be pleased, no matter who is offended…

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