No successful marriage is either an accident or realised by wishful thinking; it comes by commitment. Marriage is not a temporary arrangement, but a commitment for life. If this is true, you may ask why is the divorce rate so high today even among Christians? The answer is that many couple are not committed to each other. The Bibles says in Genesis 2:24
“Therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
In essence, God is saying that a man shall leave his father and mother, and be committed to his wife as well as the institution of marriage, and then by virtue of that commitment they become one flesh. Same goes for the wife. Husband and wife, how committed are you to your marriage and family? If you must enjoy family success which is God’s will for you, then commitment is a must!
What is Commitment?
The Cambridge dictionary defines commitment “as a willingness to give your time and energy to something that you believe in, or a promise or firm decision to do something. In other words, your will must translate to action. Your commitment must be more than words.
“Marriage is a total commitment and a total sharing of the total person with another person until death .”- Wayne Mack.
Paul said in 1 Corinthians 6:12:
“All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient …” Commitment makes you choose the expedient above the lawful. It makes you forgo some things that you like or take pleasure in. Sometimes, rights and privileges that are lawfully yours may have to be forfeited in the interest of the family.
Commitment is the pillar of any fruitful marriage and the family. It is the glue that binds a marriage together.
When commitment is lacking in the relationship between a husband and wife, the likelihood of that family surviving are very slim. What the spinal cord is to the body is what commitment is to marriage and the family. Without it, the body will be limp and paralyzed.
Families with great success potentials suffer severe setbacks and failure as a result of lack of commitment. I once read the story of a twenty-five-year-old marriage that ended in separation due to a lack of commitment of both the husband and wife.
To enjoy family success, you must be committed both to the institution of marriage and to your spouse. Look at this wonderful scripture:
“What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Mark 10:9.
Even though God has joined you together, you must be committed to one another, so that nothing is allowed to put you asunder.
Again, God’s Word says: Marriage is honourable; that is, respectable. The individuals in it sometimes may not be. Marriage, as an institution established by God, is perfect, but the individuals in it are not. People change as they grow, but marriage is constant. It is an unchanging institution. To build a successful marriage, therefore, those in it must learn to honour marriage itself. This is the secret!
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